When We Say And When We Hear

It is a reality that we always remain caught up in. The realities of our lives, the realities of those surrounding us and the reality of our own existence. We begin to communicate, hoping and expecting to feel relaxed or at the least heard.

When we say, we might have many things to say, yet we choose to say only those things that give us a definite answer or a desired reaction from the person we desire to get a response from. Most of the times people are just concerned about their own lives, their own circumstances, and their own-selves most importantly. We forget the basic rules of compassionate living and most young folks are often left unheard and even the ageing folks find it tough to communicate with the rest. The benefit talking ceases to be as it is or as it was.

When we hear, we get the time to absorb the negativity of the other person, and often tend to become more strong by giving an ear to the other person. The grievances of others often give us insights into our own lives where we choose to respond to not just others in a more compassionate manner but we also begin to address ourselves and our own demands in a more holistic manner.

Expressing ourselves also must come with not great expectations but only basic idea of having someone to listen to us, and give us nothing in return, because everyone has their own challenges and perspectives in lives.

All the moreso, it is important to not to overtly express oneself specially in situations when one is in extremes of moods, yet when it happens people must be humble enough to acknowledge their shortcomings, and apologize to the other persons who were at the receiving end of their behavioural flaws. Yet, it remains spectacularly ignorant to expect anyone who is not personally interested in one’s life to develop any kind of empathy or sympathy or even show any level of understanding to the other person.

Therefore, the time tested philosophy remains the less one tries to communicate, the lesser that person gets involved in moronic situations.

When we start hearing things change because by this point we have already realised that saying much doesn’t change a thing.